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AnonymousApril 8, 2014 at 8:15 PMhii, so I have this guy frnd, he is my bestfriend. whenever he has a gf nhe always acts like i dont exist but when they are apart he comes running back to me. Also when I first met him I had a crush on him but it died because we got closer and he got to know everything about me well most and I know him. I still have like a 3/10 crush in him tho, i think he knows that and a lot of people have told me he likes me, when I say a lot i mean a lot. He has shown some signs but I really don't know. I feel like I am his re-bound. p.s we are both under 18. I would really appreciate ur advise..thanks
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Hi honey! I am so humbled that you would ask me for advice.
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Boys can be so confusing right? It's so annoying when you can't tell if they like you or not. You don't know if he's just being a good friend or if he likes you. You just wish you could read his mind. *sigh*
I have a friend who i had a massive crush on, but we got closer and I got over my crush, so I guess that's normal ( Or maybe you and I are just abnormal ;)) Every now and then though, I'd take a good look at him and just praise the Lord for his good looks and his wisdom. You know what I am saying? Hehe.
I never assume that someone likes me unless they expressly tell me so. I really don't think ‘well he does this and that and his friends say he likes me too’, so it must be true. He might just be nice. You don't want to get your hopes up only to find out he sees you as a sister and that's why he went the extra mile for you. Awkward! Now I know most people think I am totally oblivious, and that many times it's right in my face. The thing is, I know a lot of REALLY nice people, so i don't think anything of it when someone is really nice to me. It's not strange at all. Maybe I am not the right person to talk to about this? LOL
I have known my best friend for about 12 years and we have been best friends for 8 years. Everybody and their brother,sister, uncle and aunty thinks he likes me. In the 12 years that I have known him, he has never expressed that to me. I am 99.99% sure he doesn’t like me. These people see signs, and I just see a really good friend. Truth be told, in a few cases, everyone has been right and I have been wrong. You sure you still want advice from me? LOL
By the way, if he acts like you don't exist when he has a girlfriend, he isn't being a good friend. I can't imagine my friends ignoring me when they get into relationships. I'd be upset.
Now, let’s say he does like you and wants you to be his girlfriend. I do not believe in dating for the fun of it. I think you should only be in a relationship if you see marriage in the near future. Do you think you are in a place to be married within the next 3 years? Are you thinking 'okay we are going to date with the purpose of marriage?" Your answer is probably no. So honey, you are young and free. Do fun stuff, hang out in groups, go to concerts, talk about good looking boys, you can even gush over them (just a little though. You don't want to start lusting. lol) Trust that at the right time, God will connect you with the man you are meant to be with it. When he comes, you will know it because God will reveal him to you. He won't play games with you or keep you guessing. He will pursue you with everything. Whoever he is, and wherever he is, He is so worth the wait!
I hope I answered your question love. This is exactly what I would say to my little sister (She’s 17) I know that was a long response. I am very talkative. LOL.
Love you!- AnonymousApril 10, 2014 at 7:06 PM
Lool thank you i read it all. Well like in February We stopped talking cos he got a new girl and started ignoring me so i was like w.e i got over it and we dont talk anymore like before . Just hii once in a while. My frnd gave me d same advice as you. Thanks so much for ur advice 😘😘
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hii, so I have this guy frnd, he is my bestfriend. whenever he has a gf nhe always acts like i dont exist but when they are apart he comes running back to me. Also when I first met him I had a crush on him but it died because we got closer and he got to know everything about me well most and I know him. I still have like a 3/10 crush in him tho, i think he knows that and a lot of people have told me he likes me, when I say a lot i mean a lot. He has shown some signs but I really don't know. I feel like I am his re-bound. p.s we are both under 18. I would really appreciate ur advise..thanks
ReplyDeleteHi honey! I am so humbled that you would ask me for advice.
DeleteBoys can be so confusing right? It's so annoying when you can't tell if they like you or not. You don't know if he's just being a good friend or if he likes you. You just wish you could read his mind. *sigh*
I have a friend who i had a massive crush on, but we got closer and I got over my crush, so I guess that's normal ( Or maybe you and I are just abnormal ;)) Every now and then though, I'd take a good look at him and just praise the Lord for his good looks and his wisdom. You know what I am saying? Hehe.
I never assume that someone likes me unless they expressly tell me so. I really don't think ‘well he does this and that and his friends say he likes me too’, so it must be true. He might just be nice. You don't want to get your hopes up only to find out he sees you as a sister and that's why he went the extra mile for you. Awkward! Now I know most people think I am totally oblivious, and that many times it's right in my face. The thing is, I know a lot of REALLY nice people, so i don't think anything of it when someone is really nice to me. It's not strange at all. Maybe I am not the right person to talk to about this? LOL
I have known my best friend for about 12 years and we have been best friends for 8 years. Everybody and their brother,sister, uncle and aunty thinks he likes me. In the 12 years that I have known him, he has never expressed that to me. I am 99.99% sure he doesn’t like me. These people see signs, and I just see a really good friend. Truth be told, in a few cases, everyone has been right and I have been wrong. You sure you still want advice from me? LOL
By the way, if he acts like you don't exist when he has a girlfriend, he isn't being a good friend. I can't imagine my friends ignoring me when they get into relationships. I'd be upset.
Now, let’s say he does like you and wants you to be his girlfriend. I do not believe in dating for the fun of it. I think you should only be in a relationship if you see marriage in the near future. Do you think you are in a place to be married within the next 3 years? Are you thinking 'okay we are going to date with the purpose of marriage?" Your answer is probably no. So honey, you are young and free. Do fun stuff, hang out in groups, go to concerts, talk about good looking boys, you can even gush over them (just a little though. You don't want to start lusting. lol) Trust that at the right time, God will connect you with the man you are meant to be with it. When he comes, you will know it because God will reveal him to you. He won't play games with you or keep you guessing. He will pursue you with everything. Whoever he is, and wherever he is, He is so worth the wait!
I hope I answered your question love. This is exactly what I would say to my little sister (She’s 17) I know that was a long response. I am very talkative. LOL.
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Lool thank you i read it all. Well like in February We stopped talking cos he got a new girl and started ignoring me so i was like w.e i got over it and we dont talk anymore like before . Just hii once in a while. My frnd gave me d same advice as you. Thanks so much for ur advice 😘😘
DeleteYou are welcome sweetie <3
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